Im thinking of messaging the Whore something like this…my hate for her is festering inside. I want her to know pain like I feel. I want her to wake up every day and wonder whether today is the day life as she knows it comes crumbling down around her.
I have a few questions for you. What did it feel like to sleep with my husband knowing his wife was pregnant? How did you justify it to yourself? What did you tell yourself so you could sleep at night? What did it feel like to go on a date with him the day I lost my baby you dirty, low life whore. What would your husband think? What sort of woman are you? Your absolute scum that’s what you are and your dead on the inside.
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I am so sorry that you are feeling so angry. I know you want to let it out. At first thought i think “no you shouldnt speak to her. Because what she did reflects her character. Why should you fall like her”. Then i think that “No she deserves to let it out”. Maybe you should let it out but in words that dont show you like a small person like herself. If you really want to tell her off, then do so in words that make her feel guilty and dont show you bad either 😉
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Yes I know stooping to her level is counter productive…I’m just so angry!!
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Dont be. What they did, is their character. Why should you punish your health and mental affairs? Its not fair
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So let me say that you LET IT OUT! get the anger out, get the anger out, get it out!! I could see anger like that festering inside someone and it wouldn’t be a good thing.
At the same time, you want to get the anger out in a healthy way. Is that talking to this person face to face? I don’t know. You could write everything out on paper in the nastiest words you can imagine and then burn it. Or you could just meet with her and see what happens. I can’t say I know what I would do if I were in your shoes. In some ways, I think I would want to meet the other woman. But how would that look? at your home, at hers? in a neutral environment? But remember, there are probably no words that she can give you that will give you any better understanding of why they did what they did. And personally, I still put bigger ownership on your husband. HE is the one who made vows to you. Not her. Although, yes.. she is still scum in my opinion.
Big hugs to you.
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This anger feels horrible. It’s manifesting itself in my body. My whole neck and shoulders are so sore and tight. I’m not an angry person usually so it feels so foreign to me and it feels like there’s nowhere for these feelings to go. I’m going to talk to my therapist and ask him for some strategies. I don’t think I want to meet her.
Home is horrible at the moment. He’s so guilty and feels so bad and doesn’t seem to be trying to reconcile. Trying times but I will get through it. Thanks for your support and hope everything is going well for you xx
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Why being angry at her? The real guilty person here is your husband! I am ‘another woman’, a ‘homewrecker’ and I can tell you that the other side of the medal is different from what you imagine. Life happens, love happens. She did nothing to you, he is the one who looked somewhere else and he probably had his reasons – valid or not. Let your anger out but leave her alone, she doesn’t deserve that… Your cheating husband does.
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I agree that life and love happen. What I don’t understand or agree with is both of them going behind their spouses backs. There’s a reason it’s called cheating. It’s cowardly and selfish. I’m sorry that you find yourself in the other woman role. No one wins in situations like this.
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Ahh, she was fully aware that he was married. I’m sorry, but if you know they are in another relationship, than have the decency to tell them if they want to be with you, they need to leave that other person first. Sorry, but yes, if you’re aware, than you are guilty too. Sorry if you don’t like that but it takes two to tango. It’s one thing if her husband had lied and the other woman didn’t know about his family, but that’s not the case. She has every right to be angry at her and she does deserve it.
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