So the big 2nd opinion has been had. I had prepared myself for the worst. The worst being told that we should give up, go to donor eggs etc. and being told that we have next to no possible chance of success with IVF. It wasn’t quite as devastating as I’d imagined but it wasn’t all roses either.
She reviewed our past cycles, suggested we have new tests done as our last tests were almost 12 months ago. She reminded us that we had a 30% chance of abnormal eggs and/or miscarriage at my age. She suggested a day 3 transfer for us.
I mentioned I had tried acupuncture and she suggested not to bother with it as evidence is inclusive as to whether it improves birth rates. She said the same about DHEA that I recently started taking. Inconclusive evidence. She said the only thing she could suggest to improve my egg quality would be some sort of steroid which I can’t recall the name of the drawback being it costs $2k additional per cycle. We don’t have the additional funds for that so I think I’ll drop the acupuncture and keep on the DHEA for now. To be honest the acupuncture appointments were becoming a stress. They ended up feeling just like an extra appointment I had to try to fit into my already over loaded schedule so any stress relief they are meant to deliver became redundant anyway.
I asked about whether there was a different protocol she could recommend I try and I asked her about estrogen priming. She said I could try it but she couldn’t guarantee a better result than what I’ve had up to now. That was the takeaway message of the appointment really. She couldn’t guarantee me a better result then what I’ve had with my previous two cycles with my last clinic. I appreciated her honesty.
She ended the appointment saying that it was important that I trust in the protocol and keep positive thoughts going throughout the cycle, as it makes a big difference to success. Well yes that’s great in theory but you’ve just finished telling me how low our chances of success are and I just had to suggest a protocol to YOU which I had researched online. Forgive me for feeling a little unsure (insert sarcasm here) Is it just me or does anyone else feel frustrated with their specialist?
So looks like we are starting on a down regulated cycle at the start of my next cycle. It’s a longer cycle than what I’ve been on previously with supression before the actual stimulation begins. So I’ll be taking some form of needle for around 3 weeks instead of the usual 10 days or so…what joy! One thing I do possess is patience and resilience which I’m thinking I may need over the coming months.
Do for now I’m busy trying to distracted and trying to keep some sort of normality before the crazy roller coaster begins. I’m also trying to reduce my stress level. I’m staring with simplyfing my schedule a little. It’s harder then it sounds at least for me it is. Got to try.